Prayers for Bobby
Coming of age and gay themed films
have had a huge role in helping LGBTQ members figure themselves out and also
helping them feel a type of connection with someone that they can relate to. These
types of films have only recently started being made. This is not to say that
members of the LGBTQ community were not in other films, but the time period
where LGBTQ members actually have dreams and happy endings has only recently
began. There are films like Beautiful
Thing, directed by Hettie Macdonald, and Edge of Seventeen, directed by David Moreton, that don’t leave
their audience at an angry or mournful ending. Instead they are left at a more
cheerful and/or hopeful ending that can help inspire one who watches it. One
film that does have a mixture between these mournful and hopeful themed endings
is Prayers for Bobby, which was
directed by Russell Mulcahy. After watching the film, I was left with this
mixed feeling between being upset but also relived due to the fact that even
though Bobby committed suicide in the middle of the plot, his ignorant mother
has a sudden realization and sees the mistake she had made for not accepting
her son. She then goes on to become a symbolic ally to the LGBTQ community. The
film portrays Bobby as a young adult who is struggling with his sexuality due
to the fact that he lives within a religious household. Jordan Mattos’ article,
“Prayers for Bobby: Blurring out the most painful aspects,” sheds light on
the fact that the transition from the book to the film left out several of
other details that could have changed the way we viewed both Bobby and his
family.
Mattos explains how Bobby “had
lively friendships with many gay and lesbians his age, and had a guilt-ridden
but active sex life. He also worked as a prostitute, sharing the earnings with
his unsuspecting mother, and expressed hatred for himself and others at the
drop of a hat” (Mattos, 2009). Throughout the film, Bobby is presented with a
bit more innocence and when finally interacting with the LGBTQ community, it is
shown as more like a bird jumping off the nest and flying on its own for the
first time. This whole new idea of thinking of Bobby as a sexually active
prostitute and almost bipolar attitude does change the way I first thought
about Bobby as an individual. He’s really not as innocent as they had portrayed
him in the film. It’s not the fact that he is not as innocent that catches my
attention, but instead the fact that they decided to leave all of this out of
the film.
All of this hiding of
sexual desire and sexual exploration can easily be tied back to the restrained
views people had about more provocative issues back in the late 19th
century. There were these “educational and political campaigns to encourage chastity,
to eliminate prostitution, and to discourage masturbation, especially among the
young” (Rubin 1993, 4). These types of groups would work hard on trying to stop
anything that did not seem “right” to them. As a result, “they have left a deep
imprint on attitudes about sex, parental anxieties, and sex law” (Rubin 1993,
4). This imprint was surly seen within the film industry and the restraints
they put on directors and editors on what it is they are allowed to show on the
big screen. The impact that the early groups made on today’s society is not
only seen in film, but also in reality. To several the word “gay” means “gay
white men with large discretionary incomes” (Smith, 101). This stereotype is in
a way given to Bobby in the film, even though he is not necessarily portrayed
as rich, he is portrayed as an upper middle class teen that does not seem to
worry much about money. It is this idea of “gay people as white, middle class,
and male, which is just what the establishment media want people to think,”
(Smith, 101) that draws in people to think of Bobby as the stereotype, when in
reality, as told from the book, he was not.
All of these restraints that some say have gone away in today’s
society are still here for the most part. Hiding certain details about some
characters in films that were of importance when thinking of a character is
just another example of how today’s society still has these restraints. The
fact that the book was “turned down” so much just goes to show how our society
is not confronted with the truth behind the struggles of an LGBTQ member and
the obstacles that one must overcome.
Barbara
Smith “Homophobia: Why Bring it Up?” from The Lesbian and Gay Studies Reader.
Ed Henry Ablelove et al New York & London: Routledge, 1993.
Gayle
Rubin “Thinking Sex: Notes for a Radical Theory of Politics of Sexuality” from Social
Perspectives in Gay and Lesbian Studies ed. Peter M Nardi and Beth
Schneider.
Mattos,
Jordan. "Prayers for Bobby: Blurring out the Most Painful Aspects." World
Socialist Web Site. 21 Jan. 2009. Web. 08 Feb. 2012.
<http://wsws.org/articles/2009/jan2009/pray-j21.shtml>.
I think that it is interesting that the people who made the movie decided to leave those details about Bobby as a prostitute, or an “out” homosexual out of the movie. They wanted to portray him as “innocent” and make the movie a “coming out” story. However, straying from the true story does not help anyone. What would have been so wrong to portray him in his true ways? It seems as though the moviemakers are conforming to the social norm of what a gay man is supposed to look like in order for society to accept him. I agree with your use of Barbara Smith’s ideas from Homophobia: Why Bring it up? In that Bobby is being type-cast as the stereotypical white, wealthy, gay man; when in reality that was not who he was at all. There is a need to make the LGBT community acceptable to society for some reason, and this is how people are trying to achieve that. Society talks about helping the LGBT community feel comfortable and confident in themselves, yet they won’t portray a gay man in his truest form because he’s not the right “type” of gay. They are still being hidden, and it’s time to change that attitude to reflect our progressing times.
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